“Cool Kid” Syndrome

Something I live for is deconstructing conditioning and diving deep into self-awareness and discovery. I love debriefing the nuances of each moment. I live to discover what exists beyond the words. I invite and provide a new perspective. I empower you to shine with permission. I’m here to lead, guide, listen, empower, and support you in trusting yourself. 

The other day, I saw some muddy waters I’d been flopping around in with crystal clarity. I witnessed a part of me that had been running in the background.  She’s always wanted to be the “cool kid”. 

Cool kid syndrome: Abandons self to fit in. Disregards inner knowing and goes along with what everyone else’s doing. Maintains a persona to belong. Dresses, talks, behaves in such a way that one is (hopefully) looked up to or considered to be a certain way. Trend follower versus trendsetter. 

“Cool” meant belonging because I was doing what was “in”.

So much of my journey has been going left when everyone else has gone right, and because of that, I’ve met some ridiculously amazing humans who have also chosen to find their version of “left” and unconventional.  And yet, even though I’d found those I resonate with, this part of me was still acting up. 

Still playing my cards a certain way. Believing I needed to conform to fit it. Camouflaging in subtle ways.  Following the trends instead of creating them. Comparing instead of staying in my own lane.

In this IG world, I can get so trapped in the “Cool Kid Syndrome”

Am I saying the right thing?

Am I representing myself correctly?

Is this how to “do” it? 

It’s exhausting. Trying ‘to be somebody’ every day as a Reflector is literally a betrayal to myself. 

I’m not here to be any one way.  I’m here to offer many ways, see many things, and speak from all kinds of angles. To have one consistent voice…I can’t and trying to do so is like wearing a straight jacket.

I’m here to provide direction, to support you in knowing what love is and how it feels, and to know yourself in the most profound ways. When you know how to listen to yourself, you don’t second guess yourself. You stand firmly in two feet and you show up for your epicness. 

Knowing myself continues to be my greatest feat based on my constitution and yet my superpower is being a mirror for you to see yourself with clarity.

Clients often say I gifted them a permission slip to finally be themselves.  I may have been the vessel that delivered the information, and you chose to receive it.  Receiving your permission slip is life-changing.

You may choose to resist what I say or you notice everything in you relax with profound relief. 

I affirm what deep down you already know.

I support you in seeing and integrating what already exists.

I get to be the mirror that shows you how perfectly designed you are to BE YOU.